Posts Tagged ‘loss’
Is everyone waiting for you to recover from your loss?
Maybe that’s what it feels like. Do you feel as if your close friends are watching you to feel into how you’re doing? Do you feel like your family members are hurrying you to “get over” your grief? Do you feel like you’re disappointing them all because your grief seems never-ending? ~~~~ I get it.…Read More
Grief Is A Journey That Grows You
We learn about the five stages of grief. We read about how the second year might feel when compared to the first. We want to get to 2022 because we believe we will be feeling much better then. What if you could let go of the need for a clear path…and let grief be a…Read More
Don’t Wait Until Tomorrow. You Don’t Know If You Have A Tomorrow.
When news of the basketball legend Kobe Bryant’s tragic death flashed on my phone, it felt surreal. No, I’m not a basketball fan. I’ve rarely watched a full game. And yet, his death hit home hard. My husband and daughter are huge fans of the game. But that’s not the entire reason why I felt grief well…Read More
3 Powerful Lessons I Learned from A Simple Word
I was in bad shape in January 2009. My mother’s death at age 68 plunged me into an ocean of grief. I could barely see the shore. Here’s what I told myself over and over. Life from here on is unending sorrow. I’ll never recover from this. I can’t bear this pain. This is simply…Read More
Responding to Grief And Loss
When we encounter loss, we feel like we’re in a foreign country. We don’t speak the language and don’t have a map. Nobody taught us how to do grief. We didn’t learn it from our parents. We didn’t learn it in school. We didn’t grow up with the vocabulary of loss. So when loss…Read More
Slowing Down Grief
Grief has a rhythm all its own. In our haste to speed our recovery, we rush around frenetically trying to find the instant-formula, or 3-quick-steps to grief relief. We make our expectations clear to a coach or counselor: I don’t have too much time. I need to get over this grief thing asap. Do you specialize in…Read More
Are You Living Life In Your Head?
Grief has a way of parking us up in our head. When we lose someone we dearly love, or something we cherish like a job, a home, or a country we love, fear is the first response. Confused by the loss of certainty, the brain, feels scrambled. The monkey mind takes over and does not…Read More
My 1,689 Failed Attempts to Improve My Life
I believe with every cell in my being that I am an old soul. A part of me has known this even when I was a little girl. As I grew into my twenties and thirties, I wanted to live up to that cherished ideal. To be an old soul in a world which wasn’t…Read More
5 Ways to Support Your Loved One Who’s Dying
I’m often asked the question: “How do I prepare for the death of someone I love?” This is such a great question because we all find ourselves in that situation. And if we haven’t already, there will come a time when we find ourselves in that space. The first thing I’d like to say is…Read More
Attachment And The Pain Of Loss
I once received a great question from a workshop participant. She was struggling through the loss of a beloved friend. Here’s the question she asked me. “Should I avoid attachment so that I avoid the pain of loss?” The Buddhist view is that suffering is caused by attachment. They say that the more you attach…Read More