Within a few months of moving to Marin County, CA it became obvious that we would soon move to Germany for my husband’s job. There was one problem. I’d fallen in love with the scenic beauty of where we lived. I didn’t want to leave. My resistance was rock-solid. I moved through all the emotions: anger,…

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It’s Day 5 of our new life in Essen, Germany. We’ve unpacked, put the stuff in our six suitcases away, and are slowly and steadily settling into our temporary apartment. Leaving the known and familiar to plunge into a country and a life where there are so many unknowns is both challenging and exciting. The…

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For a really long time, one of my favorite pastimes was to watch old reruns of the decades-ago sitcom Three’s Company. I adore John Ritter (the young chef who shares an apartment with two girls) and his antics. He makes me laugh in a switch-off-my-brain-and-just-enjoy kind of way. The popular sitcom ended in America in the early eighties,…

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When 2020 began, I had an entirely different set of intentions and dreams for how I wanted it to go. Some dreams had to die. Some others were even better than I could’ve imagined. And a few dreams are birthing, as I write to you.  Even as I fell in love with my life on…

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The way she looked at you. The words that came out of her mouth. Her genius at zoning in on the one thing you didn’t do well, and ignoring everything that you did. Her negative energy. Her barbs. Her acid tongue. Your mother is a huge trigger for you. You’ve always felt misunderstood. Wrong. Not enough. A…

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The Spiritual Warrior

Do you feel like your past is holding you back? That you can’t be who you want to be because of what happened to you? There’s a voice inside you that screams: WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE TO…? I used to be that person too. I looked at powerful women like Oprah and Liz…

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The past is not a problem to be solved. The past is a part of you that you're meant to outgrow.

A common theme I hear from clients all the time is this: I need to keep working on me. This comment makes me sad. It tells me that most people think there’s something inherently wrong with them, that they’re fundamentally flawed in some way. This is why they feel the need to spend endless hours…

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Our real journey begins when we surrender the destination.

We learn about the five stages of grief. We read about how the second year might feel when compared to the first. We want to get to 2022 because we believe we will be feeling much better then. What if you could let go of the need for a clear path…and let grief be a…

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In my twenties and thirties, anger was my weapon of choice. Growing up with an alcoholic father and a people-pleasing mother, I soon realized that being angry prevented others from taking advantage of me. Anger helped me feel powerful, strong, and in control. I stormed through life, defending and protecting myself against every threat, insult, and should that came…

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