The Spiritual Warrior

Do you feel like your past is holding you back? That you can’t be who you want to be because of what happened to you? There’s a voice inside you that screams: WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE TO…? I used to be that person too. I looked at powerful women like Oprah and Liz…

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The past is not a problem to be solved. The past is a part of you that you're meant to outgrow.

A common theme I hear from clients all the time is this: I need to keep working on me. This comment makes me sad. It tells me that most people think there’s something inherently wrong with them, that they’re fundamentally flawed in some way. This is why they feel the need to spend endless hours…

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Our real journey begins when we surrender the destination.

We learn about the five stages of grief. We read about how the second year might feel when compared to the first. We want to get to 2022 because we believe we will be feeling much better then. What if you could let go of the need for a clear path…and let grief be a…

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In my twenties and thirties, anger was my weapon of choice. Growing up with an alcoholic father and a people-pleasing mother, I soon realized that being angry prevented others from taking advantage of me. Anger helped me feel powerful, strong, and in control. I stormed through life, defending and protecting myself against every threat, insult, and should that came…

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your legacy

One of my favorite pastimes is to watch old reruns of the decades-ago sitcom Three’s Company. I adore John Ritter (the young chef who shares an apartment with two girls) and his antics. He makes me laugh in a switch-off-my-brain-and-just-enjoy kind of way. The popular sitcom ended in America in the early eighties, which is the time I was…

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3 lessons from a simple word

I was in bad shape in January 2009. My mother’s death at age 68 plunged me into an ocean of grief. I could barely see the shore. Here’s what I told myself over and over. Life from here on is unending sorrow. I’ll never recover from this. I can’t bear this pain. This is simply…

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responding to loss

When we encounter loss, we feel like we’re in a foreign country. We don’t speak the language and don’t have a map.   Nobody taught us how to do grief. We didn’t learn it from our parents. We didn’t learn it in school. We didn’t grow up with the vocabulary of loss. So when loss…

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grief, slowing down grief, easy grief

Grief has a rhythm all its own. In our haste to speed our recovery, we rush around frenetically trying to find the instant-formula, or 3-quick-steps to grief relief. We make our expectations clear to a coach or counselor: I don’t have too much time. I need to get over this grief thing asap. Do you specialize in…

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grieving is self care

I’m big on self-care. I’ve come to realize that the work I do — holding space for the grieving, listening to stories of loss, researching, reading, and writing on topics related to the end of life — requires that I indulge in down time. The more I invest in me, the more I have to give…

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