5 Tips to Stay Calm during the Holidays

November and December, for many, are trigger months. Having to be with family for Thanksgiving and the Christmas holidays can bring up old hurts, reopen wounds, and sometimes confirm how we don’t belong where we took root. The need for self-care takes on fresh significance in the season of shopping and planning and baking. If…

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Feeling Shitty About Yourself?

  I’ve been sitting in session with many wonderful humans. The only problem? They don’t believe they’re wonderful. On the contrary, their head is filled with a mean, critical voice that consistently delivers messages about how awful they are and how they’ll never get life right. Does this sound like you?   We’re usually really mean…

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3 Good Reasons to Heal Generational Trauma

Often we don’t know why we repeat the crazy things we do. We also do a ton of healing work and feel frustrated that we can’t beat those patterns. You know, the patterns that repeat and repeat and repeat. We wonder what we’re doing wrong, why we can’t release them and be at peace.  —– * You get…

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Struggling to Forgive?

I don’t remember who or what started it. I don’t remember what was said. I do remember the hot anger and self-righteousness that kept me out of my brother’s life for almost eight years. I was stubborn that I was right, that he’d wronged me, that he should be the first to apologize and make…

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What Grief Needs From You

  Our culture is impatient with grief. In a world ruled by the time-is-money motto, we look for ways to move past it in the quickest way possible. It’s not your fault. You’re part of a system that operates this way and you’re trying to survive within this system. Unlike us, Grief, is very patient.…

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What Makes A Dream Come True

I’ve been writing a new book. It’s taken me all of nine months. This is a memoir I was terrified to write. Truth be told, this book has been knocking on the doors of my heart for a good long while. Almost 7 to 8 years. But I wrote and published two other books in…

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Do Dreams Have An Expiry Date?

I spent a week in Southern India, my first post-pandemic visit, and returned to Dusseldorf just a couple of days ago. It felt good to be with my sisters and laugh and cry and reminisce after nearly three years. We discussed dreams and wishes and hopes as we always do. And then, one of my…

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Grief, Prayers, And Policy

I had the blessing of traveling to Lourdes a week ago. It has been a dream of mine for many years and I was very emotional and grateful that it finally came true. I lit candles and prayed for all of us. On the same day, 18-year-old Salvador Ramos shot and killed nineteen students and…

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Oh, Those Same Damn Triggers Again??!

Do you feel like this when the same trigger keeps tripping you up over and over again? You thought you’d worked on it, overcome it, vanquished it. But here it is again, rearing its ugly head. —— Yeah, me too. So I’m gonna tell you how I deal with triggers. Hopefully it’ll help you as…

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Do You Feel Disconnected?

One of the biggest challenges of the pandemic era has been isolation. No watercolor conversations. No meeting friends for an impromptu dinner. No concerts, shows, movies in outdoor venues. And the hardest thing of all: the absence of connection when a loved one died. No caring hugs, comforting conversations, or space-holders to share and process…

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