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How My Aunt Would Console Joe Biden

How My Aunt Would Console Joe Biden

A very dear aunt of mine is 93 and lives in Chennai, in Southern India. She has experienced the deaths of both her adult sons and a son-in-law. Brain tumor, stomach cancer, liver cancer. I think of her as the Biden family grieves the loss of 46-year-old Beau. I think about what she might have… Continue Reading

When We Die…

When We Die…

When my mother transitioned in 2009, I struggled on many levels. But the most challenging aspect was the loss of her physicality. One moment she was here. And gone the next. She had vanished into nothingness. How did she leave? Where did she go? The thought that she was lost to me forever was a… Continue Reading

“Do you believe there’s an Afterlife?”

“Do you believe there’s an Afterlife?”

This morning I went to an interview. I was interviewing at the school district to teach a series of Continuing Ed courses. The Director of the Continuing Ed Program was a very nice gentleman…suave, polished, and kind. He asked very good questions, questions I enjoyed responding to because I am passionate about what I teach.… Continue Reading

A Love Story that Never Ends

A Love Story that Never Ends

Sweet Lorraine Fred Stobaugh’s wife Lorraine passed away in early 2013. The 96-year-old sat down to say a beautiful and unique goodbye by writing “Sweet Lorraine.” Much as he wanted to sing it for her, his lack of musical talent, he felt, stood between him and a poignant eulogy. Green Shoe Studio, an Illinois-based music… Continue Reading

Let’s Talk about the End of Life

Let’s Talk about the End of Life

Barbara Brotman is a Chicago Tribune reporter, wife and mom. But she’s a mom who was gutsy enough to use a family holiday dinner to have a crucial conversation most of us would run miles from: the end-of-life conversation. Calling it a non-traditional holiday activity, Brotman used the opportunity to get her husband, 22 and 25-year-old daughters (and… Continue Reading

The Purpose of Grief

The Purpose of Grief

Every sad ending contains the seeds of a new happy beginning. I know this for sure and have lived through it myself. In a recent phone call, this truth was revealed to me one more time. One of my jobs as a hospice volunteer is to make follow-up phone calls to bereaved family members. How the conversation will… Continue Reading

Being A Soul Midwife

Being A Soul Midwife

I am a Soul Midwife. I just didn’t know it until I read Felicity Warner’s The Soul Midwives’ Handbook: The Holistic & Spiritual Care of the Dying. Anyone who is a companion to the dying and helps them transition is actually helping birth their entry into a new realm. As the Founder of the Soul… Continue Reading

Grief and Gratitude

Grief and Gratitude

When the death of a loved one knocks us down, gratitude is the farthest thing from our minds.  And it is okay to honor that you don’t feel it. More likely, you’re angry, bitter, and feeling abandoned by your loved one in some sense. Feelings aren’t always logical and it’s important to go with the flow.… Continue Reading

10 Ways to Cope with a Difficult Loss

10 Ways to Cope with a Difficult Loss

When you lose a loved one, grief knocks you over no matter how strong you are. Here are ten strategies that will help you in coping with the transition. 1) Feel your Feelings. Allow feelings to bubble up to the surface: shock, anger, denial, sadness, fear. Everyone’s grief is as individual as their fingerprints, so… Continue Reading

Thriving After A Loss

Thriving After A Loss

You read that headline and think: Whoever wrote that is plain nuts. Is that even possible? How can someone be expected to thrive when they lose someone they’ve loved dearly? If I’d encountered that headline when my mother’s loss was still fresh, I would’ve had the same reaction. There is a time to grieve and… Continue Reading