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Slowing Down Grief

Slowing Down Grief

Grief has a rhythm all its own. In our haste to speed our recovery, we rush around frenetically trying to find the instant-formula, or 3-quick-steps to grief relief. We make our expectations clear to a coach or counselor: I don’t have too much time. I need to get over this grief thing asap. Do you specialize… Continue Reading

6 Lessons from a Frozen Shoulder

6 Lessons from a Frozen Shoulder

I’ve been dealing with a frozen left shoulder for close to two months. From all the work I do, I know the inner is as important as the outer (sometimes more important). So I’ve been tapping and sweeping and clearing. I’ve worked with a crystal pendulum, rubbed essential oils, and dunked myself in Epsom salt baths.… Continue Reading

What Messing Around With Paint Taught Me

What Messing Around With Paint Taught Me

About a month ago I spent a delicious weekend creating with spirit in the company of a sacred circle of women. For twelve hours over two days we created art, meditated to the healing energies of sound bowls, bonded, and engaged in ritual and ceremony. The image on this post is a result of that… Continue Reading

3 Principles That Can Change How You Live

3 Principles That Can Change How You Live

A couple of weeks ago, I made a presentation on FAITH at a retirement community. I ended my presentation with this quote: “Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.” The quote struck a chord in many seniors who lined up to request that I write it out… Continue Reading

How My Aunt Would Console Joe Biden

How My Aunt Would Console Joe Biden

A very dear aunt of mine is 93 and lives in Chennai, in Southern India. She has experienced the deaths of both her adult sons and a son-in-law. Brain tumor, stomach cancer, liver cancer. I think of her as the Biden family grieves the loss of 46-year-old Beau. I think about what she might have… Continue Reading

Grief Isn’t A Competition

Grief Isn’t A Competition

Almost all of us have experienced a conversation that goes something like this–once the initial pleasantries have been dealt with. We pick up this conversation somewhere in the middle. You: My mother died two years ago. Other: Oh, I’m sorry. What did she die of? You: Heart disease. Other: Yeah, mine died of Parkinson’s. It was… Continue Reading

It’s Not Happy Holidays For All

It’s Not Happy Holidays For All

It’s that time of year when everyone is writing about the holidays and grief. Or rather the grief that holidays bring on, remind us of. Most of those articles and blog posts contain similar themes, great advice, and useful tips. Do I have anything new to add? Perhaps not. Except to remind you that your… Continue Reading

A Sign from Heaven

A Sign from Heaven

Many of you know that my father-in-law transitioned in early November this year. At eighty-five, he had lived a full life and had the blessed ending we all wish for: He died at home in his own bed. He was here one moment, and gone the next. I talked to his Spirit the very next day and… Continue Reading

From Grief to Gratitude…With Love

From Grief to Gratitude…With Love

When I was in the thick fog of grief, I worked with a spiritual mentor. One meeting a month is all the energy I could muster. Getting dressed, getting into the car, driving to my appointment and talking for sixty minutes exhausted me. I loved my mentor and will always be grateful for how well… Continue Reading

What Is Your Legacy?

What Is Your Legacy?

One of my favorite pastimes is to watch old reruns of the decades-ago sitcom Three’s Company. I adore John Ritter (the young chef who shares an apartment with two girls) and his antics. He makes me laugh in a switch-off-my-brain-and-just-enjoy kind of way. The popular sitcom ended in America in the early eighties, which is the time I was… Continue Reading