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3 Mistakes To Avoid While Healing Your Grief

3 Mistakes To Avoid While Healing Your Grief

Most of us never think about loss until it happens to us. What follows is the unbearable pain of grief. We’re already in deep waters and must do all we can just to stay afloat. Here are the top 3 mistakes to avoid when you’re grieving. #1. Try not to become attached to a timeline.… Continue Reading

Emotional Decluttering…The Easy Way?

Emotional Decluttering…The Easy Way?

If you woke up this morning and went out into the world, you opened yourself up to grief and loss. Stunning statement? Stick with me while I say more. We think of loss as something BIG. Catastrophe. Trauma. Tragedy. And yet our daily lives are littered with small losses — and many times they bring… Continue Reading

5 Practices That Jumpstart My Day

5 Practices That Jumpstart My Day

For many years, I too lived life like most people do — on autopilot. I got out of bed each morning, showered and dressed and ate and sent my daughter off to school before attending to my own work. Nothing terribly wrong with that. Except one thing. I wasn’t being intentional. I wasn’t thinking about… Continue Reading

The Truth About Emotional Honesty (Part 2)

The Truth About Emotional Honesty (Part 2)

When we’re constantly concerned about “preserving” the current level of relationship we have with someone, and live in fear of losing it, we have a really hard time being emotionally honest with them. We gain in the short-term by not bringing up the “difficult” topic, but we rob ourselves of a deeper connection we could… Continue Reading

The Truth About Emotional Honesty (Part 1)

The Truth About Emotional Honesty (Part 1)

A few weeks ago I was witness to two family members who did something that reminded me of a valuable lesson. The two people in question had expressed a disagreement on an email exchange. It was the typical “my truth versus your truth” kind of situation. Some of the emails were curt, unkind, and heavy with justifications.… Continue Reading

The Dad You Had, Have, or Didn’t

The Dad You Had, Have, or Didn’t

The day to celebrate fathers is round the corner. But so many are mourning the dad who’s gone missing from their lives. Dad died. Dad disappeared from your life. Dad was physically present but emotionally absent. Dad was awesome, amazing, a one-of-a-kind Dad — but he was next door. As a hospice companion and Grief… Continue Reading

Grieving Is A Form of Self-Care

Grieving Is A Form of Self-Care

I’m big on self-care. I’ve come to realize that the work I do — holding space for the grieving, listening to stories of loss, researching, reading, and writing on topics related to the end of life — requires that I indulge in down time. The more I invest in me, the more I have to… Continue Reading

How To Find Your Way Back Through Grief

How To Find Your Way Back Through Grief

It was a few weeks ago that a women’s networking group I belong to decided to hike in a nearby forest preserve. It was a gorgeous seventies day, sunshine and breeze in perfect balance. My sacred intention for this hike was a meditative and restorative experience. I wanted to be companioned by silence. Some of the… Continue Reading

Traveling to Heal Grief

Traveling to Heal Grief

I’m always deeply touched by a well-written grief memoir. Traveling With Ghosts is definitely one of them. The year is 2002. 28-year-old Shannon Leone Fowler, a marine biologist, is backpacking through Asia with her fiancé Sean–when the unthinkable happens. Its evening and the two are kissing on a beach in Thailand when a box jellyfish–the most… Continue Reading

Grief Healing Tip #10: Transform Pain Into Purpose

Grief Healing Tip #10: Transform Pain Into Purpose

When grief is fresh and raw, you simply need to attend to your pain. Over the months and years, grief goes through an alchemy. How you respond to your grief is what opens up the space for change. There are innumerable examples of people who have suffered devastating losses, but are living their best lives… Continue Reading