Grief Healing Tip #3: Take Care of Unfinished Emotional Business

take care of unfinished emotionsI hate that I didn’t call Mom enough.
I never got to say I’m sorry.
I thought we had more time — and now I wish I’d done things differently.

Undelivered forgiveness and love.

It is a heavy baggage our soul lugs around for a lifetime.

It is one of the biggest obstacles that keeps us stuck in the rut of grief — and gets in the way of healing.

We all think we have more time. So we put off until tomorrow what can be — and what sometimes needs to be — done today.

I’ll call Dad tomorrow. I’m bushed today.
I don’t want to be the first to say Sorry — she was the one who stopped talking to me.
I’ll write that apology email when I’m able to free up some time.

And then, the unthinkable happens. Someone dies. Someone moves out of state. Someone gets married. Because time stops for no one. And you’re left holding the pieces of your broken heart…and all those things you said or didn’t get to say, did or didn’t get to do.

Clearing up unfinished business on a soul level is essential to complete healing. What if my loved one has passed on, you ask. Completion on an energetic level is still possible. I teach my clients many ways to release and clean up what remained unfinished during their loved one’s time on earth.

Clean up what remains unfinished. Don’t wait another second.

Take Action Now

1. Open up your journal.
2. Close your eyes and bring to mind one or two emotional incompletions that continue to haunt you.
3. Write them down.
4. Write down the smallest next step you can take. This sets your intention to complete the incompletion.

Example #1:
Incompletion: My mom lives in a retirement home and I don’t visit as often as I’d like to because I’m so busy.
Action Step: Mark off 2 dates on your calendar to take your mom out to lunch.

Example #2:
Incompletion: My sister and I were never close and she died suddenly. I feel so guilty.
Action Step: Think about all the ways you can express your deepest feelings to her and choose one.

Check out my memoir Losing Amma, Finding Home.

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