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Healing Energy for Grief

Healing Energy for Grief

Although I serve as a Grief Guide, I always say I’m not Advil for grief relief. I believe that our pain is a signal that speaks to us. It asks us to address something that is not working well. Instead of running away, hiding, denying or numbing, my approach is to invite pain to talk–and… Continue Reading

Responding to Grief And Loss

Responding to Grief And Loss

When we encounter loss, we feel like we’re in a foreign country. We don’t speak the language and don’t have a map. Nobody taught us how to do grief. We didn’t learn it from our parents. We didn’t learn it in school. We didn’t grow up with the vocabulary of loss. So when loss comes… Continue Reading

Caravan Of No Despair

Caravan Of No Despair

When I turned the last page of Caravan Of No Despair: A Memoir of Loss and Transformation by Mirabai Starr, I closed my eyes because it felt like a holy moment. I had been witness to the sacred transformation of a mother who had traveled the arid wilderness of loss when her 14-year-old daughter Jenny… Continue Reading

Grief: Catholic, Hindu or Jew??

Grief: Catholic, Hindu or Jew??

Grief is not Catholic, Hindu, or Jew. Grief is not black, white or brown. Grief is the great leveler. It slices through differences of country and culture, faith and fanaticism. Grief is the language of  the human heart broken by loss. It is to give voice to this message that Lo Anne Mayer (USA), Daniela… Continue Reading

How Do You Say Goodbye?

How Do You Say Goodbye?

A couple of months ago, my family and I were at King’s Cross Station in London. My 21-year-old daughter was taking a connection to Leavesden, the studio where the famous Harry Potter movies were filmed. It was a huge day for her, an ardent Potter fan, a longed-for moment that had finally arrived. As she prepared to leave, I… Continue Reading

A Daughter’s Gift of Daffodils

A Daughter’s Gift of Daffodils

Sherri Elizabeth Tidwell was only 14 years old when her mother committed suicide. The young girl’s anguish and yearning for her beloved mother birthed something beautiful for the world. Sherri offers us a wonderful bouquet of gifts through her book The Daffodils Still Grow: A Book for Grieving Daughters. Based on her personal story and… Continue Reading

3 Principles That Can Change How You Live

3 Principles That Can Change How You Live

A couple of weeks ago, I made a presentation on FAITH at a retirement community. I ended my presentation with this quote: “Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.” The quote struck a chord in many seniors who lined up to request that I write it out… Continue Reading

3 Powerful Lessons I Learned from  A Simple Word

3 Powerful Lessons I Learned from A Simple Word

I was in bad shape in January 2009. My mother’s death at age 68 plunged me into an ocean of grief. I could barely see the shore. Here’s what I told myself over and over. Life from here on is unending sorrow. I’ll never recover from this. I can’t bear this pain. This is simply… Continue Reading

How My Aunt Would Console Joe Biden

How My Aunt Would Console Joe Biden

A very dear aunt of mine is 93 and lives in Chennai, in Southern India. She has experienced the deaths of both her adult sons and a son-in-law. Brain tumor, stomach cancer, liver cancer. I think of her as the Biden family grieves the loss of 46-year-old Beau. I think about what she might have… Continue Reading

When We Die…

When We Die…

When my mother transitioned in 2009, I struggled on many levels. But the most challenging aspect was the loss of her physicality. One moment she was here. And gone the next. She had vanished into nothingness. How did she leave? Where did she go? The thought that she was lost to me forever was a… Continue Reading