Make Peace With Your Pain I guide you through your grief so you can make peace with your pain.
Grief Healing Tip #9: Find A Safe Container
Since ancient times, sharing stories has been a way of bonding with fellow humans, learning, and making sense of what happens to us. When we lose a dear one through death or the end of a relationship, when our last child leaves home, we’re caring for an aging parent, or feel empty and yearn for a… Continue Reading
Grief Healing Tip #8: Capture Moments of Joy
The human heart doesn’t function like an office floor layout where separate cubicles house different people. The human heart houses a variety of emotions: anger, sadness, joy, fear, elation, excitement… When we’re in the midst of deep grief, we’re often waiting for it to be over. And we put off things that may help us feel better… Continue Reading
Grief Healing Tip #7: Creativity Heals
When we’re grieving a loss, we move away from life. Healing is a process of turning toward life. We have to crawl our way out of the dark and find the light. This is where creativity plays such a vital role in healing a broken heart. If the pesky voice in your head is going… Continue Reading
Grief Healing Tip #6: Be Your Own Spokesperson
You need to get out more. I’m taking you shopping. Being alone isn’t good for you. Advice, advice, advice. You get a ton of it when you’re grieving a loss. Most of it comes from people who care about you and mean well. But here’s the thing. No one but you knows how you feel.… Continue Reading
Grief Healing Tip #5: Cleanse Your Heart
Remember the time your father promised to take you to the movies and then didn’t come home until late in the night? Or your mother’s ongoing comments that you could never do anything as well as your sister? Maybe you feel sad every time you recall how you were overlooked for the perfect job you had your… Continue Reading
Grief Healing Tip #4: Forgive Yourself
Last week we talked about the emotional baggage — guilt and regret — we walk around with. This week’s tip encourages you to offer forgiveness and compassion to yourself. No matter how much you wish you’d done things differently, you can’t go back and erase what you said or did. You can, however, choose to… Continue Reading
Grief Healing Tip #3: Take Care of Unfinished Emotional Business
I hate that I didn’t call Mom enough. I never got to say I’m sorry. I thought we had more time — and now I wish I’d done things differently. Guilt. Regrets. Undelivered forgiveness and love. It is a heavy baggage our soul lugs around for a lifetime. It is one of the biggest obstacles… Continue Reading
Grief Healing Tip #2: No map or timeline
As a culture we navigate our lives via Google’s search engine. We rely on Google Maps to tell us how and when we’ll get everywhere. We love 1-2-3’s, how-to’s, and formulas. Unfortunately, there is no reliable GPS, or 6-step formula that can help us navigate our grief journey. When will the pain end? is a question people ask… Continue Reading
Grief Healing Tip #1: Sacred Intention
I hate the way I feel. I want the pain to stop. I wish I could get over this. You’re probably walking around with this mantra playing inside your head. It is natural to want to get to a better-feeling place. But it’s important to be intentional about it. Too often we confuse goals and… Continue Reading
Slowing Down Grief
Grief has a rhythm all its own. In our haste to speed our recovery, we rush around frenetically trying to find the instant-formula, or 3-quick-steps to grief relief. We make our expectations clear to a coach or counselor: I don’t have too much time. I need to get over this grief thing asap. Do you specialize… Continue Reading
