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Grief Healing Tip #9: Find A Safe Container

Grief Healing Tip #9: Find A Safe Container

Since ancient times, sharing stories has been a way of bonding with fellow humans, learning, and making sense of what happens to us. When we lose a dear one through death or the end of a relationship, when our last child leaves home, we’re caring for an aging parent, or feel empty and yearn for a… Continue Reading

Grief Healing Tip #8: Capture Moments of Joy

Grief Healing Tip #8: Capture Moments of Joy

The human heart doesn’t function like an office floor layout where separate cubicles house different people. The human heart houses a variety of emotions: anger, sadness, joy, fear, elation, excitement… When we’re in the midst of deep grief, we’re often waiting for it to be over. And we put off things that may help us feel better… Continue Reading

Grief Healing Tip #7: Creativity Heals

Grief Healing Tip #7: Creativity Heals

When we’re grieving a loss, we move away from life. Healing is a process of turning toward life. We have to crawl our way out of the dark and find the light. This is where creativity plays such a vital role in healing a broken heart. If the pesky voice in your head is going… Continue Reading

Grief Healing Tip #6: Be Your Own Spokesperson

Grief Healing Tip #6: Be Your Own Spokesperson

You need to get out more. I’m taking you shopping. Being alone isn’t good for you. Advice, advice, advice. You get a ton of it when you’re grieving a loss. Most of it comes from people who care about you and mean well. But here’s the thing. No one but you knows how you feel.… Continue Reading

Grief Healing Tip #5: Cleanse Your Heart

Grief Healing Tip #5: Cleanse Your Heart

Remember the time your father promised to take you to the movies and then didn’t come home until late in the night? Or your mother’s ongoing comments that you could never do anything as well as your sister? Maybe you feel sad every time you recall how you were overlooked for the perfect job you had your… Continue Reading

Grief Healing Tip #4: Forgive Yourself

Grief Healing Tip #4: Forgive Yourself

Last week we talked about the emotional baggage — guilt and regret — we walk around with. This week’s tip encourages you to offer forgiveness and compassion to yourself. No matter how much you wish you’d done things differently, you can’t go back and erase what you said or did. You can, however, choose to… Continue Reading

Grief Healing Tip #2: No map or timeline

Grief Healing Tip #2: No map or timeline

As a culture we navigate our lives via Google’s search engine. We rely on Google Maps to tell us how and when we’ll get everywhere. We love 1-2-3’s, how-to’s, and formulas. Unfortunately, there is no reliable GPS, or 6-step formula that can help us navigate our grief journey. When will the pain end? is a question people ask… Continue Reading

Grief Healing Tip #1: Sacred Intention

Grief Healing Tip #1: Sacred Intention

I hate the way I feel. I want the pain to stop. I wish I could get over this. You’re probably walking around with this mantra playing inside your head. It is natural to want to get to a better-feeling place. But it’s important to be intentional about it. Too often we confuse goals and… Continue Reading

Slowing Down Grief

Slowing Down Grief

Grief has a rhythm all its own. In our haste to speed our recovery, we rush around frenetically trying to find the instant-formula, or 3-quick-steps to grief relief. We make our expectations clear to a coach or counselor: I don’t have too much time. I need to get over this grief thing asap. Do you specialize… Continue Reading