What Grief Needs From You

What Grief Needs From You


What grief needs from you, first and foremost, is presence.

Our culture is impatient with sadness. In a world ruled by the time-is-money motto, we look for ways to move past it in the quickest way possible.

It’s not your fault. You’re part of a system that pushes away at emotions and believes that pasting a smile on our sad face is the best way to be. Be kind to yourself because you’re trying to survive within this system.

Maybe you we're raised in a family where it wasn't safe to express emotion. You learned early in life that stuffing feelings down was the best way not to feel it. It's not your fault. You didn't have role models for how to do this thing called feeling your feelings.

Unlike us, Grief, is very patient. It waits in the wings for us to notice and tend to it. When we fail to, unattended sadness can wreak havoc with our physical and mental well-being. WE get migraines. We feel an undercurrent of fatigue. We don't connect to anything positive or remotely joyful.

We’re not meant to overpower, overcome, outrun, or outwit grief. Grief is a powerful energy that opens the portal to our deepest understanding, healing, and wisdom.

The only thing to do is get curious about what grief is asking of you. 

  • Does it have room to move in?
    Does it feel noticed?
  • Are you a welcoming space for it?
    Does it feel like the enemy?
  • Open the door. Invite grief to step inside and sit with you. Now, begin to listen.

Moving through loss is a journey and while you walk the journey you're changed on a cellular level. Be patient with the process and give grief the space and serenity and presence it needs to catalyze inside of you.

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  1. Mariko on April 29, 2023 at 12:38 pm

    I’ve been in the most deepest sorrow in my life for about a week. It truly resonated with me and reassured me this is a phase of my journey which might lead to a large transition. Thank you Uma, for sharing your wisdom.

    • Uma Girish on April 29, 2023 at 8:58 pm

      You’re in my thoughts and prayers. Let grief lead you. Trust the journey.

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