Struggling to Forgive?

Struggling to forgive? I don’t remember who or what started it. I don’t remember what was said. I do remember the hot anger and self-righteousness that kept me out of my brother’s life for almost eight years. I was stubborn that I was right, that he’d wronged me, that he should be the first to…

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4 Powerful Questions to Ask About Your Grudge

4 powerful questions to ask about your grudge offers you a pathway to investigating why you hold on to the grudges you do and how you can let them go. It’s that time of year. A time that some families love, and other families dread. Thanksgiving tables can be hotbeds of simmering, stewing tensions. Siblings,…

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Why A Sunday Lunch Made Me Cry

Why a Sunday lunch made me cry is a good story I’d love to share with you. Last weekend my husband and I were invited to my brother’s house for lunch. This is always a cause for celebration for many reasons. Not the least of which is the fact that my sister-n-law is an amazing…

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Grief Healing Tips: Forgive Yourself

forgive yourself

Last week we talked about the emotional baggage — guilt and regret — we walk around with. In Grief Healing Tips: Forgive yourself I speak about self-forgiveness and self-compassion. This week’s tip encourages you to offer forgiveness and compassion to yourself. No matter how much you wish you’d done things differently, you can’t go back…

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What Happens When We Die

the afterlife

What happens when we die? The only folks who have an answer to this questions are those who have had a near-death experience. But I had an interesting conversation on exactly this topic in the most unusual of settings that I want to share with you. This morning I went to an interview. I was…

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The Weight of Unfinished Business

unfinished business in grief

The weight of unfinished business hangs heavy on our souls. I never got to say goodbye. I haven’t spoken to my brother in five years. If I apologize, he could harm me again… Guilt. Regret. Blame. Forgiveness issues. The unfinished business of life eats away at us. Slowly. Relentlessly. It wears down our heart and…

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How do you say that final goodbye?

last goodbye

How do you say that final goodbye? The last week of my father’s fading breath was one of the hardest in my life. There he lay, on a hospital bed, battling the end stages of renal failure. My siblings and I took turns staying by his bedside. We held his hand, sang his favorite songs, and…

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What do the Dead know?

lessons from the dying

What do the dead know? Do they know some things we the living have no access to? Questions rattle inside most of us. Why do we struggle? What is the purpose of life? Isn’t there more to life than paying the bills?  Why do babies die? What happens when we die? The world-famous medium, James…

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