Struggling to Forgive?

I don’t remember who or what started it. I don’t remember what was said. I do remember the hot anger and self-righteousness that kept me out of my brother’s life for almost eight years. I was stubborn that I was right, that he’d wronged me, that he should be the first to apologize and make…

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Why Anger Feels Better Than Forgiveness

why anger feels better than forgiveness

I can’t forgive him for what he did to me. Can’t open myself up to being hurt again. She was clearly wrong…no doubt about it. I have said all of the above. Maybe so have you. To forgive someone I’m in a conflict with feels like being asked to write with my left hand (I’m…

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4 Powerful Questions to Ask When You’re Holding A Grudge

It’s that time of year. A time that some families love, and other families dread. Thanksgiving tables can be hotbeds of simmering, stewing tensions. Siblings, parents, aunts, cousins, and sometimes even distant relatives can trigger stuff in us that we don’t like and don’t want to feel. Relationships are brutal classrooms. The people we’re in…

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Why A Sunday Lunch Made Me Cry

Last weekend my husband and I were invited to my brother’s house for lunch. This is always a cause for celebration for many reasons. Not the least of which is the fact that my sister-n-law is an amazing cook who always serves us a delicious Indian meal. After lunch we were sitting in the living…

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Grief Healing Tip #4: Forgive Yourself

forgive yourself

Last week we talked about the emotional baggage — guilt and regret — we walk around with. This week’s tip encourages you to offer forgiveness and compassion to yourself. No matter how much you wish you’d done things differently, you can’t go back and erase what you said or did. You can, however, choose to…

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“Do you believe there’s an Afterlife?”

the afterlife

This morning I went to an interview. I was interviewing at the school district to teach a series of Continuing Ed courses. The Director of the Continuing Ed Program was a very nice gentleman…suave, polished, and kind. He asked very good questions, questions I enjoyed responding to because I am passionate about what I teach.…

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Unfinished Business: The Weight of Grief

unfinished business in grief

I never got to say goodbye. I haven’t spoken to my brother in five years. If I apologize, he could harm me again… Guilt. Regret. Blame. Forgiveness issues. The unfinished business of life eats away at us. Slowly. Relentlessly. It wears down our heart and soul. So we resort to prescription pills, alcohol and sugary…

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The Last Goodbye

last goodbye

The last week of my father’s fading breath was one of the hardest in my life. There he lay, on a hospital bed, battling the end stages of renal failure. My siblings and I took turns staying by his bedside. We held his hand, sang his favorite songs, and rubbed his feet. We held hands in…

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Lessons from the Dead

lessons from the dying

Questions rattle inside most of us. Why do we struggle? What is the purpose of life? Isn’t there more to life than paying the bills?  Why do babies die? What happens when we die? The world-famous medium, James Van Praagh, brings us many of the answers in Unfinished Business: What the Dead can Teach Us…

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