When Compassion is a Really Bad Idea

two young women lying down, their blond and brunette hair cascading down the bonnet of a car.

When I was in my twenties and thirties, I loved being surrounded by friends who “understood” me. Naive and immature as I was, I didn’t realize that these friendships were not authentic and didn’t serve my best interests. Here’s a story to illustrate what I mean. Mona was a close friend of mine, a part…

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How to avoid the “Why Me” trap

avoid the why me trap

Most of us pound on the door of “Why?” or “Why Me?” when a loved one exits the earthly plane. I’ve been there, done that. I was that record needle stuck in the groove of “Why?” when my mother passed away three years go. “Why me?” “Why Amma?” “Why eight months after we moved to this new country?”…

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