3 Things That Happen When You Let Go of the Past

At the end of 2018 I did something really hard. It was letting go of a piece of my past. On Dec. 31, I said goodbye to the work I’d been doing for the past ten years in senior living. Facilitating Storytelling and Life Enrichment sessions was a fun gig, but something in me knew…

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How to avoid the “Why Me” trap

avoid the why me trap

Most of us pound on the door of “Why?” or “Why Me?” when a loved one exits the earthly plane. I’ve been there, done that. I was that record needle stuck in the groove of “Why?” when my mother passed away three years go. “Why me?” “Why Amma?” “Why eight months after we moved to this new country?”…

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What Not to Say to the Grieving

what not to say to the grieving

Grief is awkward for most people. We live in a culture that hides behind pain, flees from it, pushes it down or crowds it out. Nothing brings an avalanche of cliches cascading one’s way like grief does. Poeple become totally tongue-tied the instant they are faced with the bereaved. When Amma (mother) passed away in January 2009,…

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