“How do I get over the loss of my loved one?”

Many of my clients struggle with this one. There seems to be a belief that there is a destination called “getting over” that we’re heading to. Not true. Here’s the harsh, cold, truth of reality. You won’t ever get over it. Nor do you have to. But you do have to honor it. That means…

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3 Mistakes To Avoid While Healing Your Grief

mistakes to avoid when grieving

Most of us never think about loss until it happens to us. What follows is the unbearable pain of grief. We’re already in deep waters and must do all we can just to stay afloat. Here are the top 3 mistakes to avoid when you’re grieving. #1. Try not to become attached to a timeline.…

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Grief Healing Tip #6: Be Your Own Spokesperson

honor your grieving heart

You need to get out more. I’m taking you shopping. Being alone isn’t good for you. Advice, advice, advice. You get a ton of it when you’re grieving a loss. Most of it comes from people who care about you and mean well. But here’s the thing. No one but you knows how you feel.…

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Grief Healing Tip #4: Forgive Yourself

forgive yourself

Last week we talked about the emotional baggage — guilt and regret — we walk around with. This week’s tip encourages you to offer forgiveness and compassion to yourself. No matter how much you wish you’d done things differently, you can’t go back and erase what you said or did. You can, however, choose to…

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Grief Healing Tip #2: No map or timeline

grief has no map or timeline

As a culture we navigate our lives via Google’s search engine. We rely on Google Maps to tell us how and when we’ll get everywhere. We love 1-2-3’s, how-to’s, and formulas. Unfortunately, there is no reliable GPS, or 6-step formula that can help us navigate our grief journey. When will the pain end? is a question people ask…

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Grief Healing Tip #1: Sacred Intention

healing begins with a sacred intention

I hate the way I feel. I want the pain to stop. I wish I could get over this. You’re probably walking around with this mantra playing inside your head. It is natural to want to get to a better-feeling place. But it’s important to be intentional about it. Too often we confuse goals and…

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Slowing Down Grief

grief, slowing down grief, easy grief

Grief has a rhythm all its own. In our haste to speed our recovery, we rush around frenetically trying to find the instant-formula, or 3-quick-steps to grief relief. We make our expectations clear to a coach or counselor: I don’t have too much time. I need to get over this grief thing asap. Do you specialize…

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What Messing Around With Paint Taught Me

what paint taught me

About a month ago I spent a delicious weekend creating with spirit in the company of a sacred circle of women. For twelve hours over two days we created art, meditated to the healing energies of sound bowls, bonded, and engaged in ritual and ceremony. The image on this post is a result of that…

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A Daughter’s Gift of Daffodils

gift of daffodils

Sherri Elizabeth Tidwell was only 14 years old when her mother committed suicide. The young girl’s anguish and yearning for her beloved mother birthed something beautiful for the world. Sherri offers us a wonderful bouquet of gifts through her book The Daffodils Still Grow: A Book for Grieving Daughters. Based on her personal story and…

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