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How Do You Say Goodbye?

How Do You Say Goodbye?

A couple of months ago, my family and I were at King’s Cross Station in London. My 21-year-old daughter was taking a connection to Leavesden, the studio where the famous Harry Potter movies were filmed. It was a huge day for her, an ardent Potter fan, a longed-for moment that had finally arrived. As she prepared to leave, I… Continue Reading

A Daughter’s Gift of Daffodils

A Daughter’s Gift of Daffodils

Sherri Elizabeth Tidwell was only 14 years old when her mother committed suicide. The young girl’s anguish and yearning for her beloved mother birthed something beautiful for the world. Sherri offers us a wonderful bouquet of gifts through her book The Daffodils Still Grow: A Book for Grieving Daughters. Based on her personal story and… Continue Reading

How My Aunt Would Console Joe Biden

How My Aunt Would Console Joe Biden

A very dear aunt of mine is 93 and lives in Chennai, in Southern India. She has experienced the deaths of both her adult sons and a son-in-law. Brain tumor, stomach cancer, liver cancer. I think of her as the Biden family grieves the loss of 46-year-old Beau. I think about what she might have… Continue Reading

When We Die…

When We Die…

When my mother transitioned in 2009, I struggled on many levels. But the most challenging aspect was the loss of her physicality. One moment she was here. And gone the next. She had vanished into nothingness. How did she leave? Where did she go? The thought that she was lost to me forever was a… Continue Reading

It’s Not Happy Holidays For All

It’s Not Happy Holidays For All

It’s that time of year when everyone is writing about the holidays and grief. Or rather the grief that holidays bring on, remind us of. Most of those articles and blog posts contain similar themes, great advice, and useful tips. Do I have anything new to add? Perhaps not. Except to remind you that your… Continue Reading

What Is Your Legacy?

What Is Your Legacy?

One of my favorite pastimes is to watch old reruns of the decades-ago sitcom Three’s Company. I adore John Ritter (the young chef who shares an apartment with two girls) and his antics. He makes me laugh in a switch-off-my-brain-and-just-enjoy kind of way. The popular sitcom ended in America in the early eighties, which is the time I was… Continue Reading

A Star Named Robin Williams

A Star Named Robin Williams

The day I turned 50, Robin Williams’ spirit left the earth plane. Significant milestones, in significantly different ways. When we forget, life reminds us. It’s a world of opposites. Everything is cyclical. It’s like flipping a coin. Heads you win; tails you lose. Someone celebrates. Someone mourns. A day of color and the glitter of happiness for some. A… Continue Reading

“Do you believe there’s an Afterlife?”

“Do you believe there’s an Afterlife?”

This morning I went to an interview. I was interviewing at the school district to teach a series of Continuing Ed courses. The Director of the Continuing Ed Program was a very nice gentleman…suave, polished, and kind. He asked very good questions, questions I enjoyed responding to because I am passionate about what I teach.… Continue Reading

Unfinished Business: The Weight of Grief

Unfinished Business: The Weight of Grief

I never got to say goodbye. I haven’t spoken to my brother in five years. If I apologize, he could harm me again… Guilt. Regret. Blame. Forgiveness issues. The unfinished business of life eats away at us. Slowly. Relentlessly. It wears down our heart and soul. So we resort to prescription pills, alcohol and sugary… Continue Reading

When Grief takes Our Power Away

When Grief takes Our Power Away

“Perhaps the deepest wounding in grief is our realization that we are not in control and we are not safe. We’ve spent a lifetime preparing for every possibility, protecting ourselves and our loved ones by buying safe cars, making sure we wear seat belts, stopping smoking, getting regular medical check-ups, submitting to vaccinations, living in… Continue Reading