Self-Care Mantras I Live By

I find it hard to digest many of the self-care messages I see today. So much of what I hear about Self-Care doesn’t resonate with me at all. Self-Care is so much more than massages and manicures. To me, self-care is more about the internal than the external. While I love a good massage and…

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What I Learned From Anger

In my twenties and thirties, anger was my weapon of choice. Growing up with an alcoholic father and a people-pleasing mother, I soon realized that being angry prevented others from taking advantage of me. Anger helped me feel powerful, strong, and in control. I stormed through life, defending and protecting myself against every threat, insult, and should that came…

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Tear Down Walls, Build Boundaries

I grew up in an alcoholic home. My father struggled with alcoholism for many years until AA found him and he cleaned up. I was a teenager and for me this was a painful secret I felt I had to hide from my friends. So I buttoned up and said nothing. Instead, I pretended that…

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Is Guilt Bullying You?

several fingers pointing at the word guilty written in red within two red circles

Remember that big bully on the school playground who called you names? Who made you feel small and stupid? Like you could never do anything without making a horrible mistake? Guilt is a bully. It does to you the exact same thing that the playground bully did. It makes you feel small and stupid. It…

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What You Must Know About Boundaries And Barriers

Every time my mother had to make a decision, especially one that involved the gods, she had to call her mother. Is Friday a more auspicious day than Wednesday? Should I go to this temple or that? How many times should I chant to clear the bad karma? This meant that a lot of my…

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