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How My Aunt Would Console Joe Biden

How My Aunt Would Console Joe Biden

A very dear aunt of mine is 93 and lives in Chennai, in Southern India. She has experienced the deaths of both her adult sons and a son-in-law. Brain tumor, stomach cancer, liver cancer. I think of her as the Biden family grieves the loss of 46-year-old Beau. I think about what she might have… Continue Reading

Grief Isn’t A Competition

Grief Isn’t A Competition

Almost all of us have experienced a conversation that goes something like this–once the initial pleasantries have been dealt with. We pick up this conversation somewhere in the middle. You: My mother died two years ago. Other: Oh, I’m sorry. What did she die of? You: Heart disease. Other: Yeah, mine died of Parkinson’s. It was… Continue Reading

It’s Not Happy Holidays For All

It’s Not Happy Holidays For All

It’s that time of year when everyone is writing about the holidays and grief. Or rather the grief that holidays bring on, remind us of. Most of those articles and blog posts contain similar themes, great advice, and useful tips. Do I have anything new to add? Perhaps not. Except to remind you that your… Continue Reading

A Sign from Heaven

A Sign from Heaven

Many of you know that my father-in-law transitioned in early November this year. At eighty-five, he had lived a full life and had the blessed ending we all wish for: He died at home in his own bed. He was here one moment, and gone the next. I talked to his Spirit the very next day and… Continue Reading

From Grief to Gratitude…With Love

From Grief to Gratitude…With Love

When I was in the thick fog of grief, I worked with a spiritual mentor. One meeting a month is all the energy I could muster. Getting dressed, getting into the car, driving to my appointment and talking for sixty minutes exhausted me. I loved my mentor and will always be grateful for how well… Continue Reading

What Is Your Legacy?

What Is Your Legacy?

One of my favorite pastimes is to watch old reruns of the decades-ago sitcom Three’s Company. I adore John Ritter (the young chef who shares an apartment with two girls) and his antics. He makes me laugh in a switch-off-my-brain-and-just-enjoy kind of way. The popular sitcom ended in America in the early eighties, which is the time I was… Continue Reading

A Hibiscus and Grief

A Hibiscus and Grief

The hibiscus in our backyard has brought me abundant joy this summer. Its red and yellow blooms nodding in the breeze keep me company as I eat my morning granola. Gazing at a yellow hibiscus one morning, a lesson wormed its way into me. Every morning, I traveled with the trajectory of the hibiscus–from bud… Continue Reading

Why Are We So Afraid of Death?

Why Are We So Afraid of Death?

Let’s say you have to travel to China. You know almost nothing about China (except for the fact that everything you buy here has a ‘Made in China’ label on it). You don’t speak the language. You’ve never been there. You will, I’m sure, Google hotel and restaurant information. You’ll check the local transport and… Continue Reading

A Star Named Robin Williams

A Star Named Robin Williams

The day I turned 50, Robin Williams’ spirit left the earth plane. Significant milestones, in significantly different ways. When we forget, life reminds us. It’s a world of opposites. Everything is cyclical. It’s like flipping a coin. Heads you win; tails you lose. Someone celebrates. Someone mourns. A day of color and the glitter of happiness for some. A… Continue Reading

Where is God in Grief?

Where is God in Grief?

A child drowns. A teenager crashes his car. A girl is kidnapped, then murdered. A successful executive with a six-figure paycheck jumps off a building. A crazed man pulls the trigger and innocent school kids die. How do we make sense of this? Where do we even begin? How do we console ourselves and comfort… Continue Reading