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3 Mistakes To Avoid While Healing Your Grief

3 Mistakes To Avoid While Healing Your Grief

Most of us never think about loss until it happens to us. What follows is the unbearable pain of grief. We’re already in deep waters and must do all we can just to stay afloat. Here are the top 3 mistakes to avoid when you’re grieving. #1. Try not to become attached to a timeline.… Continue Reading

Emotional Decluttering…The Easy Way?

Emotional Decluttering…The Easy Way?

If you woke up this morning and went out into the world, you opened yourself up to grief and loss. Stunning statement? Stick with me while I say more. We think of loss as something BIG. Catastrophe. Trauma. Tragedy. And yet our daily lives are littered with small losses — and many times they bring… Continue Reading

The Truth About Emotional Honesty (Part 2)

The Truth About Emotional Honesty (Part 2)

When we’re constantly concerned about “preserving” the current level of relationship we have with someone, and live in fear of losing it, we have a really hard time being emotionally honest with them. We gain in the short-term by not bringing up the “difficult” topic, but we rob ourselves of a deeper connection we could… Continue Reading

The Dad You Had, Have, or Didn’t

The Dad You Had, Have, or Didn’t

The day to celebrate fathers is round the corner. But so many are mourning the dad who’s gone missing from their lives. Dad died. Dad disappeared from your life. Dad was physically present but emotionally absent. Dad was awesome, amazing, a one-of-a-kind Dad — but he was next door. As a hospice companion and Grief… Continue Reading

Grieving Is A Form of Self-Care

Grieving Is A Form of Self-Care

I’m big on self-care. I’ve come to realize that the work I do — holding space for the grieving, listening to stories of loss, researching, reading, and writing on topics related to the end of life — requires that I indulge in down time. The more I invest in me, the more I have to… Continue Reading

How To Find Your Way Back Through Grief

How To Find Your Way Back Through Grief

It was a few weeks ago that a women’s networking group I belong to decided to hike in a nearby forest preserve. It was a gorgeous seventies day, sunshine and breeze in perfect balance. My sacred intention for this hike was a meditative and restorative experience. I wanted to be companioned by silence. Some of the… Continue Reading

Traveling to Heal Grief

Traveling to Heal Grief

I’m always deeply touched by a well-written grief memoir. Traveling With Ghosts is definitely one of them. The year is 2002. 28-year-old Shannon Leone Fowler, a marine biologist, is backpacking through Asia with her fiancé Sean–when the unthinkable happens. Its evening and the two are kissing on a beach in Thailand when a box jellyfish–the most… Continue Reading

Grief Healing Tip #10: Transform Pain Into Purpose

Grief Healing Tip #10: Transform Pain Into Purpose

When grief is fresh and raw, you simply need to attend to your pain. Over the months and years, grief goes through an alchemy. How you respond to your grief is what opens up the space for change. There are innumerable examples of people who have suffered devastating losses, but are living their best lives… Continue Reading

Grief Healing Tip #9: Find A Safe Container

Grief Healing Tip #9: Find A Safe Container

Since ancient times, sharing stories has been a way of bonding with fellow humans, learning, and making sense of what happens to us. When we lose a dear one through death or the end of a relationship, when our last child leaves home, we’re caring for an aging parent, or feel empty and yearn for a… Continue Reading

Grief Healing Tip #8: Capture Moments of Joy

Grief Healing Tip #8: Capture Moments of Joy

The human heart doesn’t function like an office floor layout where separate cubicles house different people. The human heart houses a variety of emotions: anger, sadness, joy, fear, elation, excitement… When we’re in the midst of deep grief, we’re often waiting for it to be over. And we put off things that may help us feel better… Continue Reading