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The Two Kinds of Pain We Suffer

The Two Kinds of Pain We Suffer

Most of us seek to avoid experiences that cause pain. We gravitate toward experiences that bring us pleasure. This is totally normal. The human brain is hardwired for safety and security. Pain-avoidance is a biological impulse. But is it possible to live in a human body and navigate life by avoiding pain?! Absolutely not. This… Continue Reading

Some Notes on my India Travels

Some Notes on my India Travels

I returned from my India vacation four days ago and am still dealing with jet lag. But I wanted to reach out to you and share some highlights of our family vacation. We spent Christmas with my husband’s side of the family and helped my sister-in-law bake a total of 15 cakes. The tree was… Continue Reading

7 Truths Children Teach Us About Grief & Loss

7 Truths Children Teach Us About Grief & Loss

It was a tiny worm that lived in a tiny box. And 5-year-old Kate had grown fond of it. One day, the worm lay dead in the box. Kate’s dad wondered how to break the news to her. “Sweetie…the worm…um…its body got really sick…um…and so…well, it stopped…” “Dad, did the worm die?” asked Kate. The… Continue Reading

Why Anger Feels Better Than Forgiveness

Why Anger Feels Better Than Forgiveness

I can’t forgive him for what he did to me. Can’t open myself up to being hurt again. She was clearly wrong…no doubt about it. I have said all of the above. Maybe so have you. To forgive someone I’m in a conflict with feels like being asked to write with my left hand (I’m… Continue Reading

How Looking Back Can Keep You Moving Forward

How Looking Back Can Keep You Moving Forward

Every single client of mine says some version of the following: “It’s six months after the loss…why am I still crying??!” “I’m trying everything I can but grief is still kicking my ass.” “I know I have a lot of healing work to do.” We’re so hard on ourselves. We don’t give ourselves a break.… Continue Reading

12 Ways In Which I Healed My Grief

12 Ways In Which I Healed My Grief

My mother’s death in January 2009, eight months after my husband, teenage daughter, and I moved from India to the U.S. dropped me into a dark hole. I was a stranger in a foreign country. I had no friends. I was learning to drive. And it was my first Chicago winter. As I struggled through… Continue Reading

Let’s Send Love to Las Vegas

Let’s Send Love to Las Vegas

What happened in Las Vegas on October 2 makes us sad, mad, and everything in between. It takes away our confidence and leaves us feeling helpless. We all feel some version of the following: The world is becoming worse, day by day. I can’t trust anyone anymore. I feel so unsafe. But every tragedy also… Continue Reading

8 Steps to An Easy Meditation Practice

8 Steps to An Easy Meditation Practice

In my last post, I tried to clear the cobwebs about common meditation myths. In this post, I’ll take you through a series of easy steps on how to get a meditation practice going without feeling like you’ll never get it right. Start with an intention. Whether it’s meditation or running a 5k it always… Continue Reading

6 Meditation Facts Every Beginner Must Know

6 Meditation Facts Every Beginner Must Know

I love closing my eyes and turning inward in daily meditation. It’s one of the gifts in my daily life. But my meditation practice didn’t exactly start out this way. My mind didn’t know how to stop. When I sat down and shut my eyes, my body suddenly became keenly aware of every itch and twitch.… Continue Reading

10 Things The Bereaved Don’t Want to Hear

10 Things The Bereaved Don’t Want to Hear

Awkward as we are around loss, we are equally at a loss for words. So we rush to fill the silence with something, anything. We need to be mindful that the bereaved are people who are walking around without skin. Their pain is raw and real. So if you find yourself stumbling and fumbling when… Continue Reading