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Traveling to Heal Grief

Traveling to Heal Grief

I’m always deeply touched by a well-written grief memoir. Traveling With Ghosts is definitely one of them. The year is 2002. 28-year-old Shannon Leone Fowler, a marine biologist, is backpacking through Asia with her fiancé Sean–when the unthinkable happens. Its evening and the two are kissing on a beach in Thailand when a box jellyfish–the most… Continue Reading

Grief Healing Tip #10: Transform Pain Into Purpose

Grief Healing Tip #10: Transform Pain Into Purpose

When grief is fresh and raw, you simply need to attend to your pain. Over the months and years, grief goes through an alchemy. How you respond to your grief is what opens up the space for change. There are innumerable examples of people who have suffered devastating losses, but are living their best lives… Continue Reading

Grief Healing Tip #9: Find A Safe Container

Grief Healing Tip #9: Find A Safe Container

Since ancient times, sharing stories has been a way of bonding with fellow humans, learning, and making sense of what happens to us. When we lose a dear one through death or the end of a relationship, when our last child leaves home, we’re caring for an aging parent, or feel empty and yearn for a… Continue Reading

Grief Healing Tip #8: Capture Moments of Joy

Grief Healing Tip #8: Capture Moments of Joy

The human heart doesn’t function like an office floor layout where separate cubicles house different people. The human heart houses a variety of emotions: anger, sadness, joy, fear, elation, excitement… When we’re in the midst of deep grief, we’re often waiting for it to be over. And we put off things that may help us feel better… Continue Reading

How Do You Say Goodbye?

How Do You Say Goodbye?

A couple of months ago, my family and I were at King’s Cross Station in London. My 21-year-old daughter was taking a connection to Leavesden, the studio where the famous Harry Potter movies were filmed. It was a huge day for her, an ardent Potter fan, a longed-for moment that had finally arrived. As she prepared to leave, I… Continue Reading

3 Principles That Can Change How You Live

3 Principles That Can Change How You Live

A couple of weeks ago, I made a presentation on FAITH at a retirement community. I ended my presentation with this quote: “Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.” The quote struck a chord in many seniors who lined up to request that I write it out… Continue Reading

How My Aunt Would Console Joe Biden

How My Aunt Would Console Joe Biden

A very dear aunt of mine is 93 and lives in Chennai, in Southern India. She has experienced the deaths of both her adult sons and a son-in-law. Brain tumor, stomach cancer, liver cancer. I think of her as the Biden family grieves the loss of 46-year-old Beau. I think about what she might have… Continue Reading

Grief is a lonely feeling

Grief is a lonely feeling

The pain of grief is something only the grieving understand. When my mother passed away and I was in deep shock and pain, the best healing gift I gave myself was a Grief group. Drowning in a turbulent maelstrom of emotions, I felt all alone. I was all alone. Neither my husband nor my daughter could touch… Continue Reading

“Being” with the dying

“Being” with the dying

In Last Acts of Kindness: Lessons for the Living from the Bedsides of the Dying, Judith Redwing Keyssar writes: “People tend to do what makes them feel comfortable when a loved one is dying. In an attempt to control their emotions, some make food, some drink, others make plans and others take long walks. There… Continue Reading

The Circle of Life

The Circle of Life

Eckhart Tolle is one of my favorite modern-day mystics. In his book A New Earth Tolle talks about the duality of life. There’s night and day, up and down, happy and sad, tall and short. Duality is the nature of the physical world we live in. It is a world of opposites, of contrasts. So it… Continue Reading