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7 Truths Children Teach Us About Grief & Loss

7 Truths Children Teach Us About Grief & Loss

It was a tiny worm that lived in a tiny box. And 5-year-old Kate had grown fond of it. One day, the worm lay dead in the box. Kate’s dad wondered how to break the news to her. “Sweetie…the worm…um…its body got really sick…um…and so…well, it stopped…” “Dad, did the worm die?” asked Kate. The… Continue Reading

Why Anger Feels Better Than Forgiveness

Why Anger Feels Better Than Forgiveness

I can’t forgive him for what he did to me. Can’t open myself up to being hurt again. She was clearly wrong…no doubt about it. I have said all of the above. Maybe so have you. To forgive someone I’m in a conflict with feels like being asked to write with my left hand (I’m… Continue Reading

How Looking Back Can Keep You Moving Forward

How Looking Back Can Keep You Moving Forward

Every single client of mine says some version of the following: “It’s six months after the loss…why am I still crying??!” “I’m trying everything I can but grief is still kicking my ass.” “I know I have a lot of healing work to do.” We’re so hard on ourselves. We don’t give ourselves a break.… Continue Reading

12 Ways In Which I Healed My Grief

12 Ways In Which I Healed My Grief

My mother’s death in January 2009, eight months after my husband, teenage daughter, and I moved from India to the U.S. dropped me into a dark hole. I was a stranger in a foreign country. I had no friends. I was learning to drive. And it was my first Chicago winter. As I struggled through… Continue Reading

8 Steps to An Easy Meditation Practice

8 Steps to An Easy Meditation Practice

In my last post, I tried to clear the cobwebs about common meditation myths. In this post, I’ll take you through a series of easy steps on how to get a meditation practice going without feeling like you’ll never get it right. Start with an intention. Whether it’s meditation or running a 5k it always… Continue Reading

5 Ways to Support the Grieving

5 Ways to Support the Grieving

In my previous post I listed the 10 Things the Bereaved Don’t Want to Hear. Once you know what not to say and do, you’re probably thinking: Hmm. Well, what are some ways I can support someone grieving a loss? Often, we’re speechless in the face of someone’s loss. So we lamely offer an awkward… Continue Reading

10 Things The Bereaved Don’t Want to Hear

10 Things The Bereaved Don’t Want to Hear

Awkward as we are around loss, we are equally at a loss for words. So we rush to fill the silence with something, anything. We need to be mindful that the bereaved are people who are walking around without skin. Their pain is raw and real. So if you find yourself stumbling and fumbling when… Continue Reading

Do You Feel Your Feelings?

Do You Feel Your Feelings?

I remember a moment during my intense grief over my mother’s death. I was sitting on the oatmeal-colored carpet in our living space, tears streaming down my face. My husband looked at me, sighed, and asked the question: “Haven’t you cried enough?” I didn’t know back then what I know today. I didn’t have the… Continue Reading

3 Mistakes To Avoid While Healing Your Grief

3 Mistakes To Avoid While Healing Your Grief

Most of us never think about loss until it happens to us. What follows is the unbearable pain of grief. We’re already in deep waters and must do all we can just to stay afloat. Here are the top 3 mistakes to avoid when you’re grieving. #1. Try not to become attached to a timeline.… Continue Reading

Grieving Is A Form of Self-Care

Grieving Is A Form of Self-Care

I’m big on self-care. I’ve come to realize that the work I do — holding space for the grieving, listening to stories of loss, researching, reading, and writing on topics related to the end of life — requires that I indulge in down time. The more I invest in me, the more I have to… Continue Reading