How to Listen to a Grieving Person

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How to listen to a grieving person is a valuable life skill that can be learned. “We’ve said our goodbyes to each other,” Janet choked the words out. I turned to look at her 59-year-old husband Ted who was deeply sedated, but more at peace than he’d been a couple of days ago. Ted was in our hospice…

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How do you say that final goodbye?

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How do you say that final goodbye? The last week of my father’s fading breath was one of the hardest in my life. There he lay, on a hospital bed, battling the end stages of renal failure. My siblings and I took turns staying by his bedside. We held his hand, sang his favorite songs, and…

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Moving through Grief and Loss

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Audrey Pellicano is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist who believes in an all-encompassing approach to healing grief.  Moving through grief and loss feels like an uphill climb. But in her inspiring words, “…the most relevant training I have had is living life as a widow.” She works with companies and individuals and also takes on…

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Where do we come from?

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Where do we come from? And where are we going? This book sounds to me like a love letter to humanity. A very timely one at that. Margaret is Gerry Garvin’s guardian angel, the loving entity who has been helping him unravel life for over 20 years. The book is designed to help us understand three…

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10 Questions We Ask about Death

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What are the top 10 questions we ask about death? When someone you love dies, your world goes black. It happened to me when my mother died. My senses went numb. My brain buzzed with a single question: Why?? And soon a flood of questions poured in. What is death, I asked myself, really and…

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Why Me?

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Why me? Why my child? These are questions every parent who lost a child in the Connecticut school shootings is asking today. Why innocent kids? This follows on the heels of the first. When the mind is confronted with a tragedy of this magnitude, there are more questions than answers. Asking why me is completely normal.…

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Message from a departed loved one

A message from a departed loved one can bring a spontaneous tear. Of the many hats I wear, one is as facilitator of a weekly group on “Reminiscences & Life Lessons” at a senior living community. I absolutely adore silver-haired, wrinkled folk and their long-winded sagas. But the downside of the job is the heartbreak…

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Wishes for someone Grieving

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Wishes for the Grieving and Healing Heart opens with a heartwarming story of the water bug that turns into a dragonfly–a perfect metaphor for the transformation from physical form to spirit. It heralds a significant truth: When you lose someone you love, life will never be the same; you will never be the same. But…

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Coping with Grief during the Holidays

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Coping with grief during the holidays takes a lot of energy. Diwali, the festival of lights, is to India what Christmas is to the West. The first Diwali after my mother passed away in January of 2009 was the hardest. It was her favorite festival. In the countdown to it, she’d get really busy drawing…

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Is Karma A Real Thing?

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Is karma a real thing? Growing up in India, “karma” and “reincarnation” have been part of, not just my DNA, but regular adult conversations as well. I haven’t always been curious about it, though. For most of my teenage and early adult years I avoided getting close to it because karma, I knew, was all about “sin”, “retribution”, and…

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