Does Guilt Keep You Awake At Night?

GUILT. It’s like lugging a horrible, heavy monster everywhere you go. There’s no relief, no letting up, no days off. It colors everything you think, do, and say.

In short, guilt causes so much suffering. And it’s hard not to feel it because it’s built into us. Guilt is our moral compass. It’s a good thing we have the ability to feel it. But the problem gets out of hand when we begin to judge our actions and punish ourselves. We think of ourselves as ‘bad’ or ‘shameful’ or ‘not deserving of anything good.’ 

Does any of this sound familiar?

I wish I’d visited my mom more often before she died.

If I’d known that was the last conversation we would have, I’d have said “I love you” one last time.

Maybe I should’ve got one more medical opinion.

I wish I’d done a better job of caring for my husband.

You beat yourself up endlessly for all the coulda, shoulda, woulda. And you’re spending the rest of your life feeling like a terrible person for all your mistakes and failures.

You feel:

  • angry for the choices you made
  • bad about the choices you didn’t make
  • like it was all your fault
  • ashamed, alone, and sad

This is exactly why I created Give Up Guilt, Grow Through Grace a 6-week teleclass beginning Nov. 8. This experience will take you from feeling like the world’s worst mistake to understanding the choices you made with compassion and self-care.

In this 6-week teleclass, you will:

  • understand the difference between guilt and regret so that you can catch yourself when it happens
  • learn how healthy guilt and unhealthy guilt feel so that you know how to listen to one and ignore the other
  • how to minimize guilt so that you have more balance and joy and energy your life
  • forgive yourself for what you did and what you didn’t do so that peace returns to your life

Don’t waste another moment wallowing in all of the lies that your mind is telling you because you did or didn’t do something; you didn’t say or said something. 

If you’re ready to let go of this baggage you’ve been lugging around, what better time than the last quarter of 2018? It gives you the opportunity to make a fresh start in 2019. A clean slate, a new beginning, a new YOU.


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  1. Bernadine Madison on February 7, 2021 at 4:34 pm

    I suffer with insomnia due to choices I made in life, hurting people, humility and shameful things now that I am 70 years old I think about it constantly especially at night I almost hate myself now I can see where I went wrong im6so embarrassed and ashamed.

    • Uma Girish on February 7, 2021 at 5:05 pm

      Dear Bernadine,
      I admire your courage in sharing your thoughts. It must have been so hard. I completely understand how this guilt keeps you up at night. Unfortunately we don’t get to go back and change our past. But we get to make amends and dissolve the guilt we’re carrying around. You may be interested in a course I have on Guilt. It’s called “Give Up the Guilt, Grow Through Grace.” You can find all the course details at the link below:
      Sending you all good wishes,

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