When I was in my teens, I wanted to be nothing like my mother.
She stayed home, cooked and cleaned, and kept our family of six together. To me, that life was B-O-R-I-N-G.
My mother was also someone who had no ambition to step outside our home to find a job, didn’t care much about politics or governance, and saw the inside of a beauty salon only in her forties. She was also a person who rarely held a grudge, forgave easily, and listened well to anyone who had a story to share.
It took me a lot of growing up to learn that what I called boring was a life of love, commitment, and courage.
My arguments with her were usually one-sided because she rarely argued back. Overall, we shared an easy, loving relationship.
I know that’s not always the case.
What I know now which I didn’t know back in the day is this: no matter what your relationship with your mother was like, it is only in understanding, healing, and making peace with it that we move forward in life. There’s a reason for this.
Your mother is your first and most primal relationship. She gave you life…even if she didn’t do anything right after that.
You learned to feel safe or unsafe, secure or insecure, loved or not, nurtured or abandoned by her first. And that primal relationship formed a template for every other relationship in your life.
What happens if there was abandonment or abuse? What if she did nothing to care for you or keep you safe?
In healing the mother wound we connect the dots. Traveling back in lineage we’re able to see where the lack of love originated and how it trickled down the generations. The key focus here is compassion, but we cannot get to compassion until we understand where the trauma had its roots and how all concerned people were affected.
An unhealed mother wound shows up as chronic illness, unexplained fears and phobias, anxiety, deep depression, relationship patterns where you attract the same type of partners, and excessive people-pleasing tendencies.
This is such an important piece of work. Exactly why I’m teaching a 90-minute class titled “Healing the Mother Wound” at a Unity Church. If you are local, please join me.
Date: May 10 (Thu)
Time: 7:00 PM to 8:30 PM
Venue: Unity Northwest Church, Des Plaines IL
(CALL 847-297-0997 to register)
This teaching would be perfect for you if:
- you’ve had a rocky relationship with your mother
- there is a part of you that still rejects her
- you blame her for where you are in your life and who you’ve become
- you’re unable to let go of the need to be loved by her
- you find yourself taking care of your mother, not receiving her love
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