These inspirational quotes about learning from loss will change your perspective and lessen your grief.
“When one door closes, another opens; but so often we look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the ones which open for us.”
Growth happens in the space between the two doors, the one that closed behind us and the one that’s waiting to open in front of us. Until we’re willing to let go of that closed door we cannot begin to move. At some point in our grief journey, we look at the closed door and accept that it won’t open. That is where healing begins.
“If you’re feeling low, don’t despair. The sun has a sinking spell every night, but it comes back up every morning.”
As energy beings, we’re subject to ups and downs. Know in the deepest part of you that when you have a down day, you’re not going to remain there forever. Tomorrow is another day. And it will be, if you just let today be what it is.
“Letting go has never been easy, but holding on can be as difficult. Yet strength is measured not by holding on, but by letting go.”
Grasping is a lot harder than opening your fist and letting something that’s ready to fly away leave. We hold on to people, relationships, ways of being and doing that don’t serve our best self. Ask why you’re holding on to something. It’s no different than stocking milk that’s well past its expiration date.
“When the heart grieves over what it has lost, the spirit rejoices over what it has left.”
Every person, object, and experience blesses us. It leaves behind something of value. Even if it was a bad relationship it teaches us something about ourselves–if we’re open to receiving the lesson. Our spirit focusses on what was left behind even as our heart grieves over what was lost.
“Grief is like the ocean; it comes in waves, ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.”
Riding the waves of grief is all we need to learn how to do. If we can simply be present and navigate the choppy waters, we’re safe. Judgment, criticism, and self-bashing simply add an extra layer of suffering to what is a difficult situation.
“What we have enjoyed deeply, we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.”
The people we have loved and lost live on in our thoughts, feelings, memories, and values. They played a critical part in shaping who we’ve become. How could we ever be separated from them when they live on in our eyes and skin and bones?
“Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.”
If you’re grieving hard, you loved well. Take all that love that your heart is so full of and find someone who is looking for it…and give it to them. Love can always be channeled for someone’s greater good.
“Life is so ironic. It takes sadness to know what happiness is, noise to appreciate silence and absence to value presence.”
Sit with this lesson and ask how you can better value all the people in your life today…because you know what loss feels like. Everyone who is in your life today will die. Love on them. You’ll be so glad you did…when they’re no longer here.
“Healing comes in waves and maybe today the wave hits the rocks and that’s ok, that’s ok darling, you are still healing, you are still healing.”
Two steps forward, six steps back. That’s what the grief journey often feels like. Know that wherever you are, you are okay. You’re still healing. You’re still growing.
“In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety.”
Our life comes down to our decisions. In every moment we get to decide. Do I choose to be happy or depressed? Do I choose to be grateful or focus on what’s missing? Do I choose to share or be selfish? Life is boiled down to all the decisions you make every single day.
“Grief is learning that it’s possible for a part of you to die while you are still living.”
You will no longer be who you were before the loss. You are changed forever. The only questions is: will you take this new, reconfigured self and serve the world? Make it a better place because of what you know about life? That’s when your life becomes one of joy and meaning.
Which quote inspired you the most?