Slowing Down Grief

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Grief has a rhythm all its own. In our haste to speed our recovery, we rush around frenetically trying to find the instant-formula, or 3-quick-steps to grief relief. We make our expectations clear to a coach or counselor: I don’t have too much time. I need to get over this grief thing asap. Do you specialize […]

What Messing Around With Paint Taught Me

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About a month ago I spent a delicious weekend creating with spirit in the company of a sacred circle of women. For twelve hours over two days we created art, meditated to the healing energies of sound bowls, bonded, and engaged in ritual and ceremony. The image on this post is a result of that […]

Caravan Of No Despair

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When I turned the last page of Caravan Of No Despair: A Memoir of Loss and Transformation by Mirabai Starr, I closed my eyes because it felt like a holy moment. I had been witness to the sacred transformation of a mother who had traveled the arid wilderness of loss when her 14-year-old daughter Jenny […]

Grief: Catholic, Hindu or Jew??

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Grief is not Catholic, Hindu, or Jew. Grief is not black, white or brown. Grief is the great leveler. It slices through differences of country and culture, faith and fanaticism. Grief is the language of  the human heart broken by loss. It is to give voice to this message that Lo Anne Mayer (USA), Daniela […]

A Daughter’s Gift of Daffodils

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Sherri Elizabeth Tidwell was only 14 years old when her mother committed suicide. The young girl’s anguish and yearning for her beloved mother birthed something beautiful for the world. Sherri offers us a wonderful bouquet of gifts through her book The Daffodils Still Grow: A Book for Grieving Daughters. Based on her personal story and […]

How My Aunt Would Console Joe Biden

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A very dear aunt of mine is 93 and lives in Chennai, in Southern India. She has experienced the deaths of both her adult sons and a son-in-law. Brain tumor, stomach cancer, liver cancer. I think of her as the Biden family grieves the loss of 46-year-old Beau. I think about what she might have […]

When We Die…

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When my mother transitioned in 2009, I struggled on many levels. But the most challenging aspect was the loss of her physicality. One moment she was here. And gone the next. She had vanished into nothingness. How did she leave? Where did she go? The thought that she was lost to me forever was a […]

“Do you believe there’s an Afterlife?”

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This morning I went to an interview. I was interviewing at the school district to teach a series of Continuing Ed courses. The Director of the Continuing Ed Program was a very nice gentleman…suave, polished, and kind. He asked very good questions, questions I enjoyed responding to because I am passionate about what I teach. […]

A Love Story that Never Ends

Sweet Lorraine Fred Stobaugh’s wife Lorraine passed away in early 2013. The 96-year-old sat down to say a beautiful and unique goodbye by writing “Sweet Lorraine.” Much as he wanted to sing it for her, his lack of musical talent, he felt, stood between him and a poignant eulogy. Green Shoe Studio, an Illinois-based music […]

Let’s Talk about the End of Life

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Barbara Brotman is a Chicago Tribune reporter, wife and mom. But she’s a mom who was gutsy enough to use a family holiday dinner to have a crucial conversation most of us would run miles from: the end-of-life conversation. Calling it a non-traditional holiday activity, Brotman used the opportunity to get her husband, 22 and 25-year-old daughters (and […]