Grief Healing Tip #2: No map or timeline

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As a culture we navigate our lives via Google’s search engine. We rely on Google Maps to tell us how and when we’ll get everywhere. We love 1-2-3’s, how-to’s, and formulas. Unfortunately, there is no reliable GPS, or 6-step formula that can help us navigate our grief journey. When will the pain end? is a question people ask […]

Grief Healing Tip #1: Sacred Intention

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I hate the way I feel. I want the pain to stop. I wish I could get over this. You’re probably walking around with this mantra playing inside your head. It is natural to want to get to a better-feeling place. But it’s important to be intentional about it. Too often we confuse goals and […]

Slowing Down Grief

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Grief has a rhythm all its own. In our haste to speed our recovery, we rush around frenetically trying to find the instant-formula, or 3-quick-steps to grief relief. We make our expectations clear to a coach or counselor: I don’t have too much time. I need to get over this grief thing asap. Do you specialize […]

6 Lessons from a Frozen Shoulder

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I’ve been dealing with a frozen left shoulder for close to two months. From all the work I do, I know the inner is as important as the outer (sometimes more important). So I’ve been tapping and sweeping and clearing. I’ve worked with a crystal pendulum, rubbed essential oils, and dunked myself in Epsom salt baths. […]

What Messing Around With Paint Taught Me

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About a month ago I spent a delicious weekend creating with spirit in the company of a sacred circle of women. For twelve hours over two days we created art, meditated to the healing energies of sound bowls, bonded, and engaged in ritual and ceremony. The image on this post is a result of that […]

Healing Energy for Grief

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Although I serve as a Grief Guide, I always say I’m not Advil for grief relief. I believe that our pain is a signal that speaks to us. It asks us to address something that is not working well. Instead of running away, hiding, denying or numbing, my approach is to invite pain to talk–and […]

Responding to Grief And Loss

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When we encounter loss, we feel like we’re in a foreign country. We don’t speak the language and don’t have a map. Nobody taught us how to do grief. We didn’t learn it from our parents. We didn’t learn it in school. We didn’t grow up with the vocabulary of loss. So when loss comes […]

Caravan Of No Despair

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When I turned the last page of Caravan Of No Despair: A Memoir of Loss and Transformation by Mirabai Starr, I closed my eyes because it felt like a holy moment. I had been witness to the sacred transformation of a mother who had traveled the arid wilderness of loss when her 14-year-old daughter Jenny […]

Grief: Catholic, Hindu or Jew??

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Grief is not Catholic, Hindu, or Jew. Grief is not black, white or brown. Grief is the great leveler. It slices through differences of country and culture, faith and fanaticism. Grief is the language of  the human heart broken by loss. It is to give voice to this message that Lo Anne Mayer (USA), Daniela […]

How Do You Say Goodbye?

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A couple of months ago, my family and I were at King’s Cross Station in London. My 21-year-old daughter was taking a connection to Leavesden, the studio where the famous Harry Potter movies were filmed. It was a huge day for her, an ardent Potter fan, a longed-for moment that had finally arrived. As she prepared to leave, I […]